Monday, February 27, 2012

Insecure Compliments

Hello Beautiful

I love building up people with compliments.  To orchestrate a personally tailored symphony of uplifting speech is a wonderful experience.  I love analyzing the reactions people have to compliments.  They range from a simple thank you to arrogance; disbelief to mild offense.

This past weekend I was on the receiving end of a compliment.  On three separate occasions with three distinct groups of friends I was uplifted about the same thing in my life.  Being confident in myself I accept most compliments with a big smile and a thank you.  However, on this occasion I could only give a fake smile and try to change the conversation.

As the days past and the same area of my life was brought up I realized that in my heart I did not believe them.  They were beating at the door of an insecurity in my heart.  Each of us has insecurities in our lives.  They surface at unexpected times.  And it seems that they are bombarded with attention all at once.  We have two options when faced with a new insecurity: hide or fight.

We can hide from our insecurities; telling our friends not to speak about something because it is a matter of privacy, offense, or discomfort.  We can avert our eyes from the mirrors in our home that hold our physical insecurities.  Or we can avoid making people because of our relational insecurities.  But we are not meant to live a life hiding from people, things, or words.

We can choose to fight for a complete self. I found it no coincidence that so many people were hitting on the same area of my life.  Perhaps a loving God wanted to see me free from this self-doubt.  The Bible teaches to share each others burdens. So I confided in a close friend.  While it is a terrifying thought to allow someone into our insecurities, I was met with great love.  By the time I left I began to believe what my friends were telling me.  Belief that later turned into tangible action.

We all have insecurities but we are not meant to live with them forever.  As we grow into who we were created to be we will conquer each area of self-doubt.  Fight the insecurities of your life.  Transform yourself so that you can feel confident when someone says, “You are beautiful.”

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