Monday, September 19, 2011


Hello Beautiful

I find the car to be an optimal environment to sample new music. The tightly enclosed space allows for optimal reverberation while the upholstery reduces any harsh overtones. Drowning alone in this sonic space I can focus on the marriage of lyric to melody while reflecting my own life into the sonance. It was in this environment that I first noticed Beyoncé’s “Dance for You” from her album 4. Co-written by Beyoncé, the song describes her appreciation for her man; husband and soon to be father Jay-Z. And of course in true R&B style the song describe how she will show her appreciation.

My absolute favorite line in this track is:

“And I wanna say thank you in case I don’t thank you enough”

I feel like this song proposes a solution to one of the great problems in relationships, especially marriages. We have been drilled with the differences in the genders, the need for communication, and the importance of intimacy since our first relationship with the opposite sex. Men are challenged to be gentlemen and women are taught to expect nothing less. All of this is true.

Very true.

However, we have filled ourselves with so much entitlement that we forget to show appreciation. When was the last time you thanked your man for opening the door? When he came home did you give him a kiss because he worked hard all day to provide for the family? Have you recently made sexual advances on your husband to let him know you love him? (Yes, mom I did just write that) (You are welcome dad).

–Speaking of appreciation, much love to my number one fans, my parents; happily married over 30 years—

The magic does not have to vacate our relationships. Relationships take effort. Life takes effort. Journeying through life with a boyfriend, fiancé, or husband requires exertion on all fronts. Dates do not plan themselves. Cars do not change their own oil. Grass does not stay the same length. Bills do not come pre-paid. If you are blessed enough to have someone in your life let them know what they mean to you. Speak life into your relationship. Profess what you think of him. Maybe pop it back Beyoncé style. And trust me, your man thinks you are beautiful.

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